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Sex Positivity Blog Hop 9 November – 22 November

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This is what Grace had to say on this subject and I completely agree with her…

There is so much negativity surrounding sex. It’s used to sell everything from ice cream to cars and everything in between, but when it comes to discussing it, that’s a huge taboo. And yet, if it’s mentioned in a positive light, that it’s okay to like sex, that you want to have a lot of it (with or without multiple partners), it suddenly becomes the worst thing in the world. This hop is intended to counter that. Whether you write fiction and want to discuss how it works in your writing or if you are a blogger who reads about it. Maybe you’re just a person who’s been on the bad side of slut or kink shaming. Or you’ve been targeted because you like/watch/read/participate in porn. Whatever the case, this hop is meant to help give voice to these things, the problems they cause and what we might want to see different.

http://www.grace-duncan.com/sex-positivity-blog-hop/

The topic for this blog hop is sex positive. Now, there are all sorts of definitions out there as to what this means but I’m going to go with my own. It simply means that sex and having sex should be a positive experience and it should enjoyable. I don’t think it’s any more sinister than this.

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To me these are the attributes of having a sex positive lifestyle for anyone –

Know what you want. Whether it’s a man, a woman, and whether you are a man or a woman, you have the right to determine who you want to have sex with or make love with, for yourself, regardless of gender. No one can tell you otherwise. While it might be difficult, it is your choice. Of course sometimes society will tell you otherwise. Family might tell you otherwise. Hell, complete bloody strangers may tell you otherwise! And I would never downplay the prejudice and bigotry that people who want to be different to the norm face every single day. It’s not easy. You have to believe though  in yourself, that you are not tainted, a freak or any other label people might throw your way. You are who you are.

Having sex is healthy but only if you want to. Not having sex is also good for you if that’s the way you feel. Don’t feel pressured into being sexual with anyone until you’re ready. You deserve to be able to decide when this happens.

Sex is not always the way you see in the movies or in porn films, or read about in books. Sex can be disappointing, painful and unfulfilling in the wrong circumstances, or with the wrong person. Even with the right person, it isn’t always ecstatic sex faces and mind blowing orgasms. Don’t believe that every woman gets an orgasm from penetration, that every gay man can give a blow job, that in every relationship there is a top and a bottom. Don’t believe that you should have a six pack, be a size 38DD bra size, or have a dick like an elephant. Sex is what you as a couple, or a threesome, or even a foursome, want it to be without it being idealised and compared to what you might see portrayed in the idealistic world of romance novels and television. If it feels good and you both, or all, enjoy it, that’s what counts. Don’t expect to be perfect.

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The things which are definitely not sex positive. I wouldn’t ever condone sex with animals or dead bodies or under age children or a myriad of other illegal and unethical and immoral practices. We have laws in place for a good reason to ensure the protection of others, even if it is a chicken. Having said that….

Consensual = sex positive. Kinks, BDSM, water sports, puppy play, fetishes of all types – whatever you and your consenting other/s want to do- as long as you’re all in agreement, anything could be possible. Keep it safe, consensual and of course, fun. Judging others on how they conduct their lives and in particular, their sex lives and who they have sex with, is what gets this old world of ours into trouble every day.

In short, be comfortable with who you are, respect the people you’re in a relationship with, don’t believe you have to meet the expectations of how sex and love making is portrayed in the media of books and film and above all – have fun, enjoy yourself and let your bodies, and your emotions, do all the talking. Life is too short for regrets and we only have one of them. Life I mean- we’re all realistic enough to know we’ll have more than a few regrets.

To check out what the other bloggers have to say, follow the link below

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GIVEAWAY !!

To celebrate this blog hop, I’m giving away an e-book copies to two lucky participants –  one of my M/M books – Stripped Bare, Saving Alexander,  Worth Keeping, Double Alchemy, Double Alchemy-Climax, Waiting for Rain, Love and Punishment or Love You Senseless. Two lucky winners, drawn at random, will win their choice of a book.

You only have to leave a comment with your choice of villain to enter this giveaway. If you wanted to follow me around on my travels and book writing endeavours, then my links are below. It’s entirely up to you 🙂

Follow my blog at https://susanmacnicol.wordpress.com
Follow me on Twitter @SusanMacNicol7
Connect with me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/susiemax77
You can find me here too – http://www.susanmacnicol.com/

Check out all my books on Amazon – Susan Mac Nicol’s Books

Once the blog hop is over, the random winners will be drawn and announced here on my blog. I’ll also contact you via email. In your comment, leave me the following –

Your email address -Very Important!
Preference for which one of my books you fancy if you have one
If you want to tell me what e-book format you’d prefer if you win, feel free.

And most of all – thanks for stopping by, participating and making contact. I really appreciate you all taking the time to pop in.

Oh and you might like to check out my Man Candy section on the right. I’m sure you’ll find something there to take your fancy 🙂

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4 thoughts on “Sex Positivity Blog Hop 9 November – 22 November

  1. I like a “good” villain who is seemingly quite ordinary , but does evil things.

    WORTH KEEPING – KINDLE

    marypres(AT)gmail(DOT)com

  2. Thanks for the great post – when I think of villain’s I go back to a Disney character – Maleficent – she was always my favorite villain.

    Would love a shot at winning Love & Punishment – mobi/prc for my kindle
    lgrant1@san.rr.com

  3. I also like a “good” villain who is seemingly quite ordinary , but does evil things!
    Double Alchemy in the MOBI format please! Thank you for the chance at the giveaway!
    juliesmall2016(at)gmail(dot)com

  4. A good villain also makes you want him a little, so I’m going with Loki, the ultimate bad boy.
    Love and Punishment in mobi would be my choice.
    jasdarts at hotmail dot com

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